By Dr. Annette Weissman, Principal SIB Community School

Does your child have access to a computer?  Does your child have a cell phone?  If you answered yes to either of these questions, your child may become the victim of “cyberbullying”.  Exactly what is cyberbullying?  According to one definition, cyberbullying is using technology to threaten, insult or harass someone. It can range from threats, embarrassing or cruel rumors, harassment, and stalking to posting derogatory digital photos.  A cyberbully can quickly and aggressively send text messages and/or email with complete anonymity.  The idea that one can engage in these activities without revealing him/herself is a critical factor because it is much easier to be a bully when you can hide behind false screen names or temporary email addresses.

Nancy A. Willard, author of Cyberbullying and Cyberthreats, writes, “It is possible that the harm caused by cyberbullying may be even greater than the harm caused by traditional bullying.”  She supports this belief by noting that victims can’t escape from the Internet because it is always available and it is difficult to remove material once it is posted.  Its impact can be worldwide.

What can a parent do to prevent cyberbullying? First of all, it is most important that parents discuss Internet safety with their children.  For a long time parents have taught their children not to open a door to strangers or talk to strangers.  That rule must now be expanded to include opening doors online and talking to strangers online.  This means children do not click on any email from someone they do not know. Furthermore, children must be instructed to never give out personal information online and to never respond to messages that are suggestive or make them feel uncomfortable.  Parents must encourage their children to bring any angry or threatening emails and texts to the attention of an adult.

If your child has already experienced cyberbullying, parents should direct their children to save or print these messages and then show them to an adult they trust – like a parent or a teacher.  The children must know that they should never arrange to meet someone who is bullying them. Some children will not tell their parents about cyber bullying so parents must be aware of the signs.  Victims of cyberbullying may experience many of the same effects as children who are bullied in person.  These signs include a drop in grades, low self-esteem, a change in interest or depression.

Cyberbullying can be a complicated issue, but it can be prevented when children know how to protect themselves and parents are available to help. Children cannot handle this alone.  They must have the direction, guidance, and support of adults to make wise choices. There are many websites for parents and children to visit together that will provide valuable advice. For more information on cyberbullying, log onto cyberbullying.us.